Wednesday, April 11, 2012

J is for...


I had never lived away from my family until I got married. I had an apartment during college but it was about 5 minutes away from my parents house. When I lived in an apartment without a washer and dryer, I took my clothes to my parents house to clean them.

When I got married I moved away, about an 18 hour drive. I got on a plane with one day's notice and left my friends and family behind.

I moved to a place with more Muslims, but it is not any more "islamic" than my hometown. Maybe even less so, since the good manners that southern people have are mysteriously missing in this part of the world.

I consider this a trial-run for living in my husband's country.

Can I make it without being able to drive and have my own car? Can I make it without having my family around 24/7? Can I suffice with just phone calls and text messages with my friends? Can I adjust to a different culture (yes I maybe in the same country but the culture is still very different where we live)? Can I make it in a place where I don't go anywhere without my husband? Can I make it only getting to watch videos of my nieces growing up? Can I make it in a place where I don't know anyone and have no support system?

So far... yes alhamdulillah I've been able to make it.

I won't lie and say that I don't miss my old life. I really really do... but alhamdulillah I am happy and content with this life too. I feel fulfilled taking care of my tiny little family, I don't like driving anyway and my husband is my best friend so why should I complain having him around all the time?

I feel that this is the beginning of our journey. InshaAllah it will be a grand adventure.


  1. A very sweet and motivating post for those who are married or planning to. :)

    1. Oh thank you *blush* glad you enjoyed!

      you next inshaAllah! <3

  2. I love this post. It's very honest and inspiring. Thank you for doing this alphabet blog thing!

    I'm very attached to my mother in particular so if I get married inshAllah and have to move far from her, I know it will be a BIG test for me.

    1. Thank you so much Taahira!

      I'm very close with my mother too, we are best friends subhanAllah. I miss her a lot but alhamdulillah we are able to keep in touch and inshaAllah I am planning to visit this summer.

      Allah keep you close with your mother in this life and the next ameen.

  3. Beautiful post =) I might live in Saudi too in the future, because my husband lives there (he's not Saudi himself though). I'm having the same questions you have to be honest, but I'm hoping I can bond with his family and make new friends there, inshaAllah. I guess that's also why I'm putting off getting my driver's license, because what you don't know, you can't miss, right? :p

  4. Lovely post dear! It's never easy to change place and life but with faith in our hearts all is possible. I already live in a different country but I know one day we may decide with my husband to move to Egypt, his country.
    As you say it's the beginning of a new journey, an adventure......let's make the most of it, knowing the ones we dearly love are always with us, no matter what.