I had never lived away from my family until I got married. I had an apartment during college but it was about 5 minutes away from my parents house. When I lived in an apartment without a washer and dryer, I took my clothes to my parents house to clean them.
When I got married I moved away, about an 18 hour drive. I got on a plane with one day's notice and left my friends and family behind.
I moved to a place with more Muslims, but it is not any more "islamic" than my hometown. Maybe even less so, since the good manners that southern people have are mysteriously missing in this part of the world.
I consider this a trial-run for living in my husband's country.
Can I make it without being able to drive and have my own car? Can I make it without having my family around 24/7? Can I suffice with just phone calls and text messages with my friends? Can I adjust to a different culture (yes I maybe in the same country but the culture is still very different where we live)? Can I make it in a place where I don't go anywhere without my husband? Can I make it only getting to watch videos of my nieces growing up? Can I make it in a place where I don't know anyone and have no support system?
So far... yes alhamdulillah I've been able to make it.
I won't lie and say that I don't miss my old life. I really really do... but alhamdulillah I am happy and content with this life too. I feel fulfilled taking care of my tiny little family, I don't like driving anyway and my husband is my best friend so why should I complain having him around all the time?